C.Faith Holland

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Simple Truth 1.31.2016 January 31, 2016

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My Heart is at ease knowing that what is meant FOR me will never miss me, and that which misses me was never meant FOR me…

grant me strength

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Thought for Today 2.2.15 February 2, 2015

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Grant me strength to keep my heart open  this week…

grant me strength

 

Thought for Today 7.27.14 July 27, 2014

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You suppose you are the trouble … But you are the cure. You suppose that you are the lock on the door … But you are the key that opens it. It’s too bad that you want to be someone else… You don’t see your own face, your own beauty. Yet, no face is more beautiful … Than yours…  ~ Rumi

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Thought for Today 6.5.14 June 5, 2014

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When we open our eyes this morning we can remember to also open our mind, heart and arms too. Being open makes for easier, more joyful, more productive and more exciting days. And if we choose, that’s the kind of day that waits.

 

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Thought for Today 5.25.14 May 25, 2014

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Walking through Closed Doors: 

Even if you don’t know why a door is closed, at least respect the fact that it is closed and don’t struggle with the doorknob.

If the door was open, you would know it. Wanting it to be open does not make it open.

Much of the pain in your life happens when you attempt to walk through closed doors or try to put square pegs into round holes.

You try to hold onto someone who is ready to go, or you try to get somebody to do something before s/he is ready.

Instead of accepting what is and working with it, you interfere with it and try to manipulate it to meet your perceived needs.

Obviously, this doesn’t work. It just creates strife for yourself and others. ~ Paul Ferrini

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Thought for Today 5.1.14 May 1, 2014

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THE HEALING OF JEALOUSY


Here’s something that may be hard to hear: Jealousy is never about the other person, it’s always about YOU- YOUR feelings of being ignored, unappreciated, unseen and unloved, and underneath all of that, your frustrated desire to control others – what they do, what they want, how they are received, who loves them – and ultimately, your desire to control the universe.

Ouch. This is strong medicine. Jealousy as the attempted insurrection of the separate self against its greatest threat, unconditional love.

 

Admit it: Someone else is getting all the attention, the love, the rewards, the success, the glory, and you are left out in the cold, isolated, forgotten, a failure – not special at all. Jealousy sees the other as some kind of ‘rival’, an ‘enemy’, a ‘threat’ to your path. It sees life as a giant competition and joy as a scarce commodity. And once you go down that path, there are a million rivals, a million blocks to joy…

 

Jealousy makes your peace dependent upon someone or something else! It says, “I can’t be at peace as long as they are …” (Fill in the blank). You give the other power over you, and then resent them for taking that power – which they never did! You gave it to them with your attention.

 

Jealousy can easily strike when you are feeling uncertain, insecure, doubtful about your own path. To avoid facing your own pain, being honest about your own insecurities, you bring focus away from yourself, onto the other, and begin comparing and contrasting and mentally fighting. You want what they seem to have. “Why isn’t THAT happening to ME?” you ask. It’s all about me. Me me me. Me me me me me me. The ego thrives on comparison and power struggles.

Where and when can healing begin? The only place and time there is. Here, Now.

 

Begin by turning towards your only place of power: the present moment. Acknowledge your experience, deeply. Feel the jealousy burning, aching, throbbing, in your neck, chest, stomach. Feel the power that’s there, the volcanic power of life itself, the power that creates universes. Take away the word/label/concept ‘jealousy’ and feel directly the raw sensations without judgement and without trying to make them ‘better’. Feel the aliveness. Contact your own uncertainty, doubt, feelings of powerlessness. Feel that old familiar friend – the urgent need to control the world from where you are.

 

Don’t turn away! – when you turn away from your immediate embodied experience, separation, and therefore fear, begins. Slow down. Begin to light up the sore and forgotten places in yourself with awareness. Bring gentleness and kindness to that lost child in yourself, the one who was never seen, the one who always longed for love and understanding, who always felt ‘far away’ from life and fun. The one who would destroy a universe just to get attention. Feel the innocence there…

 

Perhaps, from a place of deep acceptance of yourself as you are, you will begin to find compassion for the one you previously called your ‘rival’. Perhaps you will even be able to celebrate his or her happiness and achievements. You will become part of his or her abundance rather than the judge and jury of it. You may be able to learn from your ex-enemy, or at least use them as a source of inspiration. Or you may forget about them altogether, let go of trying to know their experience, and simply walk your path! You will see that there is enough room in this universe for everyone to walk their own path, find their own happiness, dance their own dance. Including you.

 

Joy does not come from trying to walk another’s path, or from preventing another from walking their own path. It certainly does not come from trying to take away someone else’s happiness! Jealousy, when resisted and blindly acted upon, will hurt you and the ones around you, and will create further conflict and division. But once acknowledged, understood, embraced, and even loved, jealousy can serve to open up your heart even more, bringing you to a place of great humility, freed from that awful need to control everything and everyone around you.

 

Let jealousy serve as yet another ingenious invitation to Presence. Let it break your heart wide open in the here and now. Let it teach you humility and slowness. Let it remind you never to neglect yourself again. Know that you are never a victim, except in your own perception.  – Jeff Foster 

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Thought for Today 4.29.14 April 29, 2014

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Today We Affirm: Here in my own yard, all is well.  I stay in my own business and clean up my own vibration by choosing the thoughts that feel good when I think them. There is a Power and a Presence which guides my actions and leads my feet as I align myself with Higher Thoughts. There is no need to struggle or strive to get somewhere. I am following my joy and peace through the open doors. I am anointed with Grace to accomplish all with ease as I relax into the downstream thoughts, knowing that all is well.Image

 

 
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