C.Faith Holland

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Thoughts and Quotes for Today 3.17.14 March 17, 2014

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1. “I love people who make me laugh. I honestly think it’s the thing I like most, to laugh. It cures a multitude of ills. It’s probably the most important thing in a person.” ~ Audrey Hepburn  … Laughing infuses every single cell in our body with Love.

 

2. Sometimes your only available transportation is a Leap of Faith. ~ Margaret Shepard

 

3. To love is to recognize yourself in another. ~ Eckhart Tolle

 

4. Love is not selective, just as the light of the sun is not selective. It does not make one person special. It is not exclusive. Exclusivity is not the love of God but the “love” of ego. However, the intensity with which true love is felt can vary. There may be one person who reflects your love back to you more clearly and more intensely than others, and if that person feels the same toward you, it can be said that you are in a love relationship with him or her. The bond that connects you with that person is the same bond that connects you with the person sitting next to you on a bus, or with a bird, a tree, a flower. Only the degree of intensity with which it is felt differs. ~ Eckhart Tolle, The Power of Now

 

5. “I’ve heard people say that they cling to their painful thoughts because they’re afraid that without them they wouldn’t be activists for peace. “If I feel peaceful,” they say, “why would I bother taking action at all? My answer is  “Because that’s what Love does.” To think that we need sadness or outrage to motivate us to do what’s right is insane. As if the clearer and happier you get, the less kind you become. As if when someone finds freedom, she just sits around all day wiith drool running down her chin. My experience is the opposite. Love is action.” ~ Byron Katie

 

6. When you say, I enjoy doing this or that, it is really a misperception. It makes it appear that the joy comes from what you do, but that is not the case. Joy does not come from what you do, it flows into what you do and thus into this world from deep within you. The misperception that joy comes from what you do is normal, and it is also dangerous, because it creates the belief that joy is something that can be derived from something else, such as an activity or thing. You then look to the world to bring you joy, happiness. But it cannot do that. This is why many people live in constant frustration. The world is not giving them what they think they need. ~  Eckhart Tolle

Let your Light Shine

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Thoughts and Quotes for Today 3.3.14 March 3, 2014

1. The middle way is like being in the world but not of it. We are no longer deceived by any of it. We no longer feel threatened, defensive or fearful. We do not judge or give meaning to the seeming drama. We may appear to participate but we are not concerned about results. We smile a lot more, and our Light blesses the world. Yet, all the while, absolutely nothing disturbs our peace.

 

2. What’s wrong with being a people pleaser? I love treating others as I would like to be treated. But IF people pleasing is motivated by fear and/or a need for others to like and validate us, then we’re coming from the wrong place. There is nothing wrong with being a people pleaser, but it should be Joyful and about giving (giving and receiving being the same, ie feels the same), not a sacrifice that is about giving to getting. (note to self, if giving feels better than getting then I need to look at my motives… if I don’t like what I am getting, I must look at what I am giving, and it might not be in the same area, I could be giving “shit” to someone in my mind and then see someone giving ME “shit” later in the day… Everything I give, I give to myself)

 

3. Opening the Door to Love: Don’t worry about how long your relationship is going to last. Just give it your best energy and attention. Experience as much joy as you can with your partner. Learn as much as you can from the painful times. Do your best to be honest and clear with each other. Stretch your comfort zones a little. Be flexible and constructive. Be the first to yield and to bless. Give without worrying about what you are going to get back. 

Don’t be full of pride, but admit your faults and mistakes. Don’t be ashamed or apologetic. Have the courage to be yourself. You will never be perfect in your ability to give or receive love. Don’t try to be. Each day, just be willing to learn something about yourself and your partner. That way, little by little, the door to love will continue to open. ~ Paul Ferrini

 

4. Connecting to Love: When you enter a beautiful forest, you do not say “only the birch trees are beautiful” or “the maples are better than the oaks.”  You admire the beauty and diversity of all the trees in the forest. People who think their religion is better than other religions are missing the beauty of diversity. Each religion has a unique character that enables it to speak to certain people and not to others. If we don’t respect other traditions, we will weaken our own. Our narrowness and prejudice will be obvious to all who listen to us. Only by treating people of other faiths with love and acceptance will we give our tradition a good name. Indeed, only by connecting to the core teaching of Love within our tradition can we pass that teaching on to our children. A barren tree will make no fruit. A religion that does not help its followers connect to love will not prosper. ~ Paul Ferrini

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Thoughts and Quotes for Today 2.9.14 February 9, 2014

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1.Marriage: Marriage is not a promise to be together throughout all eternity for no one can promise that. It is a promise to be present “now.” It is a vow that must be renewed in each moment if it is to have meaning. ~  Paul Ferrini 

 

2. Fear of Intimacy: People who are afraid of love are ambivalent about giving and receiving. When you are aloof, they feel safe and desire your presence. But when you come close, they get scared and ask you to back off or go away. This emotionally teasing behavior enables them to be in relationship while avoiding intimacy and commitment. If you are drawn into such a relationship, you must face the fact that you too may be afraid to receive love. Why else would you choose a partner who cannot give it?  ~ Paul Ferrini 

 

3. You played the part that I assigned to you to help me to look at feelings of being unfairly treated. Yes, it does look like I was unfairly treated. But I used you, and it was actually orchestrated by me. Can I see that it was a replay of previous events? Can I let it go and choose peace and love? Good! Now what else can we do for each other? It is about no longer identifying with anything that can suffer.

 

4. “If you are trusting in your own strength, you have every reason to be apprehensive, anxious and fearful.” ~ ACIM Lesson 47

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Thoughts and Quotes for Today 12.8.13 December 8, 2013

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1. Do not pursue the past. Do not lose yourself in the future. The past no longer is. The future has not yet come. Looking deeply at life as it is. In the very here and now, The practitioner dwells in stability and freedom. ~ Bhaddekaratta Sutta

 

2. Don’t study. If it happens, let it happen. But don’t be dedicated to study. Be dedicated to drown yourself, to disappear, to vanish in the Absolute Self. With such an attitude one moves from death to everlasting life. ~ Mooji

 

3. Sometimes we can get so caught up in pretending to be the way we think we should be so that “others” will see us the way we would like them to see us, that we wind up playing a dishonest game of denial that can only hold us back. BE Authentically YOU… that is what we came here to be… Awaking up to the Truth of who we ARE, without our “stories” of littleness..  Knowing our Greatness… Our “Tribe” can’t find US while we are PRETENDING to BE someone we are NOT…

 

4. How would we live so as to demonstrate that we are not an ego? We would not be concerned or fearful, knowing that we are not a body, we are an eternal being and there is no death. We would share abundance by giving all to all, knowing that there is only Love, we are that, and we are lacking nothing.

The “ego” can be seen as a “getting” mechanism; so to demonstrate one is NOT an ego, one can learn that life here is “for giving” not getting… as we give of what we have received freely, more will be received to freely give. Start with what ever is in your hands now and as you learn to give where you would have expected to get, because you thought you “needed,” the principle will generalize within your heart/mind and become all inclusive. This IS the ABUNDANCE of the Kingdom!

It about being who we are, not trying to be…  Trees are not in duality… they just are. People get all twisted up in their identity… and try to do right or not do wrong. Does that help?

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Thoughts and Quotes for Today 8.25.13 August 25, 2013

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1. Forgiveness is when you don’t hang onto it anymore. You let it go. That way it can’t hold you back. This is no trivial spiritual practice. If you let it go, the past disappears, and without a past there is no future (which is a projection of the past). The window into eternity, which is now, opens and you are free. ~ Thanks Benny

2. “When you say or do anything to please, get, keep, influence, or control anyone or anything, fear is the cause and pain is the result. Manipulation is separation, and separation is painful. Another person can love you totally in that moment, and you’d have no way of realizing it. If you act from fear, there’s no way you can receive love, because you’re trapped in a thought about what you have to do for love. Every stressful thought separates you from people.” – Byron Katie

3. Do you really want to erase all your deluded beliefs, memories, stories, tendencies and identities one by one, or would you prefer to find the factory where they are produced, and blow the whole thing up? I say this because right now, I don’t have time for all this tiny pruning. You hold on to your little nail clipper, but I am giving you a great chainsaw to bring down this old tree of suffering. This chainsaw is self-inquiry. This is your good fortune. ~ Mooji

4. Making Friends with the Child Within: When you make friends with the child within, s/he stops trying to manipulate and control others to get love and acceptance and asks you for love directly. When the child within knows that s/he is loved, her hurt, fear and sadness fade away. Her sense of separation is bridged.

Something happens when the child knows that s/he is loved, but it can’t happen unless s/he knows that love is what s/he wants and s/he has the courage to ask for it. ~ Everyday Wisdom by Paul Ferrini (This is ALWAYS while knowing that giving and receiving is the SAME and everything I give, I give to mySelf)

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Thoughts and Quotes for Today 8.8.13 August 8, 2013

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1. “There is nothing worth holding onto any longer that keeps your peace and happiness at arm’s length. Become committed – fully committed to the experience of happiness” The Way of Mastery

 

2. True Rewards:  

Spiritual actions have significant rewards, but these rewards do not come to those who seek them. The gifts of Spirit must be offered without ulterior motives or strings attached. They must be given for the benefit of others without thought of how they might benefit self.

Gifts that are given spontaneously and in good faith return to the giver many times over. One who gives in this way lacks nothing of value and does not accumulate possessions that he does not need. ~ Everyday Wisdom by Paul Ferrini

 

3. Sure sign of spiritual maturity:

Taking responsibility no longer feels like you are taking the blame.

 

4. No one can give if he is concerned with the result of giving.  ACIM

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