Saying “No” in a Loving Way:
You may not think that saying “no” can be a loving act. Yet, if your child is putting his hand on a hot stove, you say “no” quickly and firmly. You do not want him to hurt himself. And then you put your arm around him and reassure him that you love him.
How many times does your brother come to you with his hand on the stove? You cannot support behavior that you know will be hurtful to another person. And you don’t want your friends to support that kind of behavior in you. ~ Everyday Wisdom by Paul Ferrini