C.Faith Holland

Soul Coaching

Thoughts and Quotes for Today 12.26.13 December 26, 2013

Filed under: Love — C. Faith Holland @ 3:18 pm
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1.“Teaching means to show a person that something is possible.” ~ Fritz Perls

 

2. I LOVE THE SIMPLICITY OF THIS WORK: “Most mornings, before or after I went out walking, I would sit by a window in the sunlight and wait for an uncomfortable feeling to appear. If it did, I would be thrilled, because I knew that it was always the result of some thought I needed to clean up. I was this. So I would write the thought down, and there was a lot of humor in the process. The thoughts that I wrote down were almost always about my mother. I knew that if I burned through one delusion, I would burn through them all, because I was dealing with concepts, not with people. They were thoughts like “My mother doesn’t love me”; “She loves my sister and brother more than me”; “She should invite me to family gatherings”; “If I tell the truth about what happened, she’ll deny it and no one will believe me.” That first year, it wasn’t enough that a thought was being met by inquiry, wordlessly, in my mind. The thought had to be written down. You can’t stop mental chaos, however motivated you are. But if you identify one piece of chaos and stabilize it, then the whole world begins to make sense. For about a year, I had to write down the beliefs that kept arising in my mind. I had to write them down and inquire, in order to hold reality firmly. They came very fast—hundreds, thousands of them. Each belief felt like a meteor crashing into a planet, trying to demolish it. Someone would say, or I would hear in my mind, “It’s a terrible day,” and my body would start to shake. It was as if I couldn’t bear the lie. It didn’t matter whether I or someone else spoke it, because I knew it was all me. The cleansing, the undoing, inside me was instantaneous, whereas when I offer inquiry to people, they’re doing it in apparent time and space—in the density that looks like time and space. But for me, the timelessness was obvious. So, when a belief hit me, I would sit and write it down and put it up against the four questions and then turn it around. That first year, I was writing all the time, crying all the time. But I never felt upset. I loved this woman who was dying through inquiry, this woman who had been so very confused. I kept falling in love with her. She was irresistible.” ~ Byron Katie

 

3. Bryon Katie on Generosity: “it’s the self in discussion and inquiry with itself. The “other” is only self-imaged. If I hear a question, it’s inside me, it’s coming from inside me, not from out there, not from “otherness.” There’s no distance, it’s connected through inquiry and immediate, and to answer one’s own question is what love will always do if one stops to listen, always in service to itself. Of course one’s “other” would be grateful. It is its own self. I would ask nothing of myself that was beyond me. It’s refreshment. It is the unlimited mind, the beloved, the pure that answers and the pure that receives. Always expanding itself, stretching, soaring, as its unlimited self, beauty and goodness, creation without limit. To not answer the question is to limit its journey. Questions appear and the answers are there to meet them, unpracticed, spontaneous, new, wise, to the student who is truly a student, and that is all that’s necessary for the mind to authentically respond to itself in a totally unlimited way, dependent only on the student’s desire to listen. If I’m sitting with someone who thinks they know what my answer is going to be, then they have limited themselves and my answers are that limited. If I’m talking to you and you already know, then even my voice will trail away, something stops in me in that recognition that the student is limited. And if I don’t stop it, the student is kind enough to stop it himself. But if the student comes with a mind that is truly open, the answer is unlimited, it’s a bottomless source.”

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